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Mens Studies

2010-02-14T16:43:00.002+13:00

It is only fare that young men have the same rights to education of their gender as women do.

Male studies programs are the answer to the extreme feminist hegemony that has dominated academia and has been poisoning the education system for more than a generation.

If women truly believe in equality, they should support the establishment of Mens Studies throughout academia.

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Oh, the Feminism topic ...

2010-01-25T20:36:00.001+13:00

This video is really how the reality is for women today...

The Legal Influence of Misandy and Pseudoscience - 1

2010-01-22T18:57:00.001+13:00

The reality of the way this affects people goes beyond imagination.

What is Misogyny?

2010-01-22T18:47:00.001+13:00

Misogyny is something that plagues our world in many ways though few people really understand it or have even heard the word. Misogyny is most simply defined as the dislike or hate of women. It truly sounds awful and maybe inconceivable to some, but it has real existence in our world. Just look to all the crimes committed against women to see where the true hatred of women lies.

Misogyny occurs in many forms in our society. If we only look at it most simply as a dislike and not necessarily a hate of women, it is easier to see where it exists.

Women are certainly easier victims in crimes but why are they being committed against women in the first place? It would stem primarily from a dislike or hate for the gender itself, most especially violent crimes like rape and murder.

Misogyny can be seen in all kinds of settings, even in television shows and in movies. The woman is most often the victim of crimes in movies and if you pay close attention you will see that someone who is seeking revenge for a crime, no matter how horrid, will often be a woman again. It may not appear that it is the woman who is being targeted as bad if she is trying to pay back for a crime, like being raped, yet it is putting the woman in a violent role again.

How often do we really see men seeking revenge in movies where a crime was committed against a woman? It may seem to make sense that a woman would seek revenge for a crime committed against a woman, but it only furthers to complicate the movie theme. Women being portrayed in any position of victim or revenge seeker, as often as happens in our society, is cause for alarm and something we should all be paying more attention to.

Look to some religions and how women are treated and it makes one wonder if it isn't a dislike for women that shapes the very structure of the religion. If the woman must always submit to the man that is supposing that the female gender is somehow inferior to males and thus perpetuates the male dominance role which often leads to misogyny.

That is not to say that all men dislike women and that some women are not bad.

What is 'misandry' and what is 'anti-misandry'?

2010-01-22T18:44:00.001+13:00

Misandry is the hatred of males as a sex, as opposed to misogyny, the hatred of women; or misanthropy, hatred of the human species. Misandry comes from misos (Greek μῖσος, "hatred") + andr-ia (Greek anér-andros, "man"). Those holding misandric beliefs can be of either sex. Thus it holds to common sense that Anti Misandry is to work toward removing misandry from our culture.

Strangulation never makes sense

2010-01-22T18:27:00.004+13:00

A bill that would require a strangulation offense to be prosecuted as a felony will succumb to budget pressures once again, a state legislator told domestic violence advocates Wednesday.

Rep. Jennifer Seelig, D-Salt Lake, said the state's ongoing budget constraints has doomed a bill she has tried for three years to make law. Last year, the Department of Corrections estimated the legislation would result in two more people each year being sentenced to prison, adding about $116,000 in ongoing costs.

Instead, Seelig said she'll offer a resolution that urges prosecutors throughout the state to seek stiffer penalties for someone who attempts or commits to smother or strangle another person.

"What I can promise you is I'm not giving up," Seelig told those attending a Safe At Home Coalition workshop on strangulation, which drew prosecutors, police, health care workers and domestic violence advocates.

Seelig's bill is widely endorsed by Utah's domestic violence and law enforcement communities, who say strangulation is often a red flag for escalating violence but is often not recognized as abuse by victims or investigators.

Strangulation is not specifically defined as an offense under Utah law. The act is often prosecuted as a misdemeanor simple assault, but can be charged as a felony under the aggravated assault statute. The hurdle for prosecutors is proving "serious bodily injury" because there is often no visible evidence of a strangulation attempt.

Seelig wants to add language that defines smothering and strangulation and makes the crime a third-degree felony. She said that would eliminate any confusion or reluctance by prosecutors about pursuing the charge as a felony crime.

"We wanted to make it absolutely clear so it would be a no-brainer," said Seelig.

Twenty seven states now have laws that specifically deal with strangulation, said Gael Strack, who led the workshop.

Strack, a former prosecutor and CEO of the National Family Justice Center Alliance, is at the forefront of a nationwide movement to educate more law officers, prosecutors and social workers about how to recognize and document domestic violence that involve strangulation.

That movement is catching on in Utah. Last spring, Salt Lake City police officers and Salt Lake County prosecutors who work domestic violence cases attended a daylong session on strangulation hosted by the Utah Coalition Against Sexual Assault. The topic now is being included in officer trainings, said Salt Lake City police Sgt. Dan Brewster, who oversees the domestic violence squad.

"It's a new area of expertise that people are really starting to realize the seriousness of," Brewster said.

Most strangulations occur during intimate partner violence. An abuser may attempt to smother or strangle a partner to control and terrorize them with the possibility of being killed, Strack said.

Often there is no visible sign of the attack -- even when death occurs. Many law officers don't know to ask about or look for telltale signs, such as red eyes, loss of consciousness, a raspy voice, sore throat and a rash of small red dots that can appear on the face, neck or scalp.

A victim may lose consciousness within as few as 10 seconds and suffer brain damage within 30 seconds; death may occur within 4 minutes.

At least 25 percent of domestic violence cases include strangulation attacks, said Strack. Strangulation, she said, is often the trigger that finally makes a woman realize the danger an abusive relationship poses to her.

from brooke@sltrib.com (source: http://www.sltrib.com/news/ci_14242477)

2010-01-04T19:43:00.002+13:00

When there are families suffering to the extent that they do... the majority of the population must participate in bringing about some kind of change to the picture.

It is so common to see women fleeing with the children...

I have been reading endless stories form both sides of the picture and we have not really even moved an inch in correcting the problems families face today.

What can be done?

Patrick Stewarts first hand account of Domestic Violence

2009-12-29T11:11:00.003+13:00

While it is such a shame that domestic violence still exists, it is great o know that you can speak up not and get help.

Judge urges more family support

2009-12-16T13:57:00.001+13:00

Judge urges more family support

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I did not know...

2009-12-14T13:59:00.003+13:00

When he hit me the first time I did not think he was aware of what he was doing... when the police woman answered in all honesty that these things happen repeatedly I did not want to believe her... but I did...
I wanted to run away but they told me I could not do so.
Now on the other end, I realize how wrong they were for not referring me onto SHAKTI in the first place. They should have done so but they did not.
Preventing Violence in the Home now known as SHINE did help but I never met anyone and they did not really know what I was going through... every time I rang I kept speaking to many other women... having to explain everything again and again was probably the best therapy I got from them. SHAKTI really know what they are doing and being migrant women they can relate to migrant women themselves. It is so important that migrant women are referred to the right kind of help in the beginning. I will not stop advocating for this until it is main stream policy from now on.

Shakti Meeting

2009-12-14T13:16:00.002+13:00

I had the best meeting today where for the first time I was informed of my rights in black and white.... IT IS SO IMPORTANT TO KNOW YOUR RIGHTS... There will not be a situation from now on when I will be swindled of my rights ever again.

Aroon and Jen came to see me today after I called out for help last Wednesday worried to bits that my visa would expire. It is so amazing to meet such wonderful switched on people.

I know know that there is no obligation to go to mediation... and no obligation to negotiate with domestic violence offenders anytime.

Domestic Violence in New Zealand

2009-12-13T16:54:00.002+13:00

It is a wonder that Domestic Violence in New Zealand shows no signs of slowing down.
There is not much being done in way of making examples of real offenders.

My ex-partner strangled me until I lost consciousness... a few seconds more and I could have been dead. When the police officer told me it is common and could happen again I knew I had to leave...

I have no regrets yet for leaving. Even though it has been hard... when I look back I know I have done the right thing.

He wants him back....

2009-12-13T16:01:00.002+13:00

On the 21st we will be having a counsel led mediation hearing... regarding the parenting order that has been in place since the domestic violence charges were laid in May 2008.
It is such a tangled web I am in... puts me in a position where I have to double check every single decision because the safety of my six year old is so very important. Then with the very same token, on the 21st of January we are going to Criminal Court to give testimony because of a breach of the protection order back in 2008.
What a roller coaster ride of legal limbo to be caught in.... and the whole time I am waiting for immigration to decide on the verdict of whether I can stay or whether I have to leave the country.
With an order from family court to not remove my son out of the country, it will be difficult to be the sole custodian of his care if I am asked to leave... what a complicated situation domestic violence can put you in...
I wish I could hear from other women caught up with the same situation... what do you do?

Immigrant woman - Domestic Violence

2009-12-09T13:04:00.000+13:00

Tomorrow I will be an illegal immigrant.

I wanted to share my last few minutes as an legal migrant and make a transition to being illegal with you... my future readers...

I am not sure exactly how things are going to turn out or exactly how I will be living when it all comes down to my last few moments here in New Zealand. So I will document it all here...

I will get into the details shortly about who I am and how I got here... but for now this is a start.